There comes a point in our lives when it becomes very important that we ask ourselves this critical question. Why do you really want to get married? It is however not enough to simply ask the question but to answer it honestly and answer it right. It is amazing how many people go into marriage relationships due to the wrong reasons. Loneliness, age, peer, societal or familial pressure should never be the reason why you go into a marriage relationship. Even “being is love” is not reason enough!
You need to know why you want to spend the rest of your life with someone else. And please make sure it is for the right reason. Many have not come to this consciousness yet. Marriage must be a deliberate, well thought out choice. For whatever reason you decide to get married to someone, there are expectations attached to that reason. When your expectations are based on a wrong reason, you will be disappointed when you eventually get married. You know why? Because reality always sets in.
Before my wedding, my wife and I went to visit my mentor. He made a profound statement that will never leave me. He said, “There are two kinds of marriages. The one you live just for yourselves and may be your immediate family, and the one you build to live beyond yourselves and impact your world. It is your choice to make, whether to live for yourselves or for your world. Whichever path you choose, know that there are prices to pay”.
You have a responsibility to discover why you want to get married. There is a reason why God brings two people together. Find out that reason. Build a vision around it. This will determine how you will live your life, pursue your career, raise your kids, etc. Answering this question will change your mindset about marriage and who you want to be in it with you.
You are the next big thing. Make it happen!