“Chris I don’t think I can live the rest of my life with that woman. My life will be miserable if I marry her. I would be a fool to make such a mistake. She holds grudges against me for weeks, recalls all of the things I did to her months back, she even has issues with her classmates six years after graduation and has refused to forgive them. What kind of a heart is that?” This was the statement made by a fine young man shortly after he thought he had met the love of his life.
Ann had a huge problem forgiving people. She carries her hurt feeling around for days or weeks allowing them to marinate and then she releases them like poisoned arrows on the unsuspecting guy. Often times It would take an intervention from his friends and her sisters in order for him to get through to her. So at a point, he got tired of the whole drama.
I remember the statement my mum made to my wife and I after our wedding. She said, “The degree of success a couple will attain in marriage, is dependent on how quickly and completely both partners forgive each other.” Because marriage is an institution that brings two imperfect people together, offences will abound. This demands that forgiveness should abound much more.
#BeforeYouLeadYourWayToTheAltar, make sure your potential spouse is someone who has the heart of forgiveness. To forgive quickly and completely is great strength of character. Forgiveness is the fuel that propels every marriage. It creates an atmosphere that encourages the growth of a marriage relationship. Unforgiveness can turn good people into monsters. Make sure you also do have a forgiving heart.
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