We all must have heard of the magic words that do wonders when used appropriately. Words like, “Thank you”, “Please”, “I love you”, “I’m sorry”, and so on. It has been discovered that these words have soothing effects on the emotions of people. Words are powerful. In them lies the capacity to stir up whatever kind of emotions they are designed to stir up.
One of the key trends I have observed during my counselling sessions is the complaint of a spouse’s inability to say the word, “I’m sorry” when they are wrong. Instead of uttering the word, they would rather buy you gifts and expect the hurt feeling to fly away with the appearance of the gifts. A ticket to Dubai does not automatically erase the memory of ill actions or words said that generated a hurt feeling in the first place.
To say “I’m sorry” is not a sign of weakness as many would think. But a sign of great strength. It takes someone without pride to humble him or herself to make an apology. Apologising when you are wrong or when you’ve hurt someone is taking responsibility for your actions and making a positive effort to make things right. On the other hand, some people are masters of apologising without repentance. They consistently hurt you and keep apologising. You’ve got to mean what you say by not perpetually repeating hurtful actions or words.
Marriage is an institution where you would get on each other’s nerves. Offence will always come. The ability of the offender to apologise and make up for the offence will strengthen the relationship. Apology is a bridge that quickly connects the offended and the offender. #BeforeYouLeadYourWayToTheAltar, make sure your potential spouse is a person that understands true and sincere apology. Your relationship will need that mix for the rest of your lives.
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